Thursday, January 14, 2010

Could I have created this monster?




Once again, I will not be winning any mother of the year awards this year. My sweet little daughter is now a terrible, almost 3 year old and OMG is she hell on wheels.


She is completely potty trained at day care. She walks in the daycare lady/friends house, puts on big girl panties and does not have, not even 1 accident all day long. She walks in the door at my house and within 1 hour, she pees her pants. Every day!!! She even did the "deed" and I am not talking pee perople, on the floor the other day. Eww. I ask her every 5 minutes if she needs to go potty. No mommy! You want to put a diaper on just in case. No mommy! I am guessing it is some sort of testing mommy thing that kids do, but geesh.


She was hugging my legs the other night and I was going about my business talking to my mom and all of a sudden I felt an excruciating pain on my thigh right next to my lady parts. My reaction was fast, and I didn't even think. I pushed her away from me and she went flying. She laid on the floor like a fish that was just brought into a boat. Flailing and screaming, mommy hit me!!! I felt horrible and I didn't mean to do it, it was just a gut reaction to my little one biting me so hard that it broke skin and I have a bruise. My step dads comment was, "thank god you don't have anyone to explain that mark to". When she calmed down and the pain on my thigh subsided, we hugged and I explained that when you hurt people, sometimes they react. She only stayed mad at me for a few minutes, unless this is why she is peeing her pants for me. I think it is a conspiracy.


We were in front of some friends that are more, lets say, stuffy the other day and a beer commercial came on. Toots says, "beer mommy, I have some" then proceed to scream and cry for beer.


We were at Walgreen's picking up some makeup since I changed my hair color and need to match all my parts, and my daughter is picking up everything, looking at it, and then really snobbishly tossing it in the cart. I couldn't put stuff back quick enough. Part of me wanted to laugh at the thought that this must be how I look when I am shopping and she is just imitating me and the other part of me wanted to cringe. I have created a mini-me-monster and she isn't even 3 yet.


Then every night as we are getting ready for bed, she grabs my face and says "I so happy to see you mommy" and I melt. I thank my lucky stars every day that she is in my life, peed on, bitten, bruised and all. I wouldn't trade 1 day with her for anything and when I bitch and moan about how hard it is to raise a strong willed little Aries on my own, I stop and think about my life before her and I remember that space in my heart that was completely empty and how now it is overflowing.


Thank God for little accidents, I mean miracles!

18 comments:

  1. "This too shall pass" is what everyone kept telling me. I kept telling them to get lost, unless they were living it. It's a hard phase, and I don't envy you at all. Good luck!

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  2. Aw!

    I wanted to laugh and cry at this.

    We've all been there honey. Stick to your guns. Don't let her run the show or she will!!! It will pass. Stay strong!

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  3. Danielle, I have to laugh, sorry. She is totally testing you. I went through this with Miss M a few months ago and now she is a complete dream. Set firm boundaries with her(while remaining calm and not yelling) and be consistant. She'll get it. As far as the peeing and pooing thing only with you, Miss M was great with her teacher and her Mom but ALWAYS did her business in her panties with me because she knew Daddy was more lenient with her. Once I got a little firmer, without getting mad, it stopped. :)

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  4. BCD- What kind of firmer did you do about the potty stuff. Any specifics that I can use?

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  5. Some day when you're an old lady and she's taking care of you, I say you pee on her right back. :P

    She's adorable - I'm sure that makes all the devilish behavior a lot easier to deal with!

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  6. This breaks ABSOLUTELY EVERY parenting book out there.....but I bit mine back. He did it once and only once. The other two never bit.

    I agree with BCD, you need to start taking things away from her or putting her in her room when she pees her pants with you. There needs to be some sort of repercussion, because the fact that she does it only with you, is totally about her trying to be the boss....and lordy you can't let her be the boss!!!

    Just my two cents....

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  7. My daughter is about the same age. My guess is that your daughter is about 4 months older since she's an Aries, and mine is a Leo, like her mother. Poor Child! Anyway, I also have a 10 year old boy and an 8 year old boy. And let me tell you, it doesn't get any easier! Just what you wanted to hear, right? And there are some days that I wish I could go back to just being me, and not Mommy. But then, Sarah will say "I lub you mommy" or the boys will come and sit on my lap and give me a big hug, and I remember WHY I don't want to go back to those days. People that don't have kids just don't get it. Yeah, it's a lot of work, but it's worth every little hug, smile, and kiss that we get paid.

    I think you're doing a great job. What a cutie patootie she is. You definitely have your hands full!

    Mich

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  8. She is adorable ! Good advice you are getting from the others !

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  9. I'm an Aries! My mother still likes me so there is hope :O)

    I have a very strong willed little gal myself...I can't even imagine what she's going to be like in another year and a half. She's so stinkin' smart and ornery now...and OOOOH! the personality!

    You're a wonderful mother! One day at a time...one cooter bite at a time...the both of you will get through it and be stronger women for it!

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  10. You need lots of booze, rope, and duct tape.

    You can figure out the rest. ;)

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  11. My own mother used to tell me that you learn patience from your kids. I didn't really get that until I had my own.

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  12. Oh, Danielle. Welcome to heaven and hell--I mean, 3 years old! ;)

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  13. Aw, I love it. And, if it makes you feel any better, my son was almost 4 before he was potty trained. I thought he was going to college in diapers.

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  14. I had a good laugh at the beer thing, but the biting...not so fun! Her love totally makes up for it. :)

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  15. Kids will take you to hell and back, but in the end you love 'em just the same. It goes by quick! I remember my daughter when she was 3. She leaves for college this fall.

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  16. Yeah I remember when my son did the same thing. Stay firm and it will pass soon enough.

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  17. All I can say about potty training is, I have yet to see a bride walking down the aisle with a diaper on. :)

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