Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Is Personal Growth a Bad Thing in the Dating World?
In the last year I have grown in so many ways and yet I know that I have so MUCH more growing to do. I think that this is a common theme in most of the single, 40ish/middle aged women that I know. They are either in a spot where they are comfortable with whom they are for the first time in their lives, or are working diligently to get there.
It seems like the past 20 years or so, I was living life, making (MANY) mistakes, learning from some and just dealing with others, chasing the proverbial dream and not being too serious about any one thing or person. Life seemed for the most part to be easy because I didn’t really care. I had plenty of time for that. Lately, I have become much more complicated and to me, this is a good thing, but is it in the realm of “relationship world”.
So my question is this. Do men want to date a women that is more comfortable in her skin, but has more boundaries, won’t put up with as much shit because we know more of what we want and don’t want, are more set in our lives and life styles and have real life “baggage”, but are more comfortable with our bodies, and are all and all mentally healthier?
Do they want the 20, early 30 something that may be less comfortable with their sexuality and less mentally healthy, but aren’t always questioning things to death, are more day by day, are able to be molded, and aren’t looking for someone to grow old with yet?
I am guessing that my (I am generalizing, sorry) answer lies in the fact that I only see men my age with younger women.
I am also guessing that if I were a man, (oh how I would love to be for just 1 day) I would date the hot young chick that isn’t “so healthy” that they analyze and “try to figure” out every single thing that happens.
I guess I just answered my own question. What are your thoughts?