I have been meaning to write about this for sometime now. I have been told that it is not possible to be friends with an ex and can be seen as wrong, but I just don't think so. Ok, maybe a little.
I am friends with A LOT of my ex boyfriends. Granted, I dated half of the population of Colorado at some point in my 20's and uhemm early 30's, so I am bound to have gotten some friends out of it. But really, I still talk to at least 20 of my ex's or one of their family members or friends.
As I look through my phones contact list, almost everyone is an ex or connected to one somehow.
I even have a friend that married an ex of mine and a friend that has been dating an ex for 8 years plus now.
I was/am friends with 1 particular ex's current wife, ex wife and the girl he cheated on me with. Now, that is weird, I must admit.
I hang out with an ex of mine's family. We actually tell my daughter that they are her "extra" grandparents.
Every time my husband asks who so and so is, I have to say "oh, I dated him" or "that is a guy I dated's sister"
So what the hell is wrong with me? I figure, that I am either so great and people love me so much that they hang around, or, I don't build strong enough connections in my relationships that what they do afterwards doesn't affect me.
I choose to believe the first! :)
Wow. That's quite and acumulation of exes and degrees of exes. I am friends with my last boyfriend and I think I always will be. But as much as I tried to make things amicable with my kids fathers, being friendly - or even civil - is just NOT ganna happen cuz they are a$$holes.
ReplyDeleteNice T-shirt, I wish I could have that.
ReplyDeleteYou are a better person than I am, I don't even want to go near my ex anymore.
I tried being friends with him for a year after, but eventually decided I didn't want to talk to him anymore.
Thanks for adding me by the way, you're pretty and cute kid you have !
Dani - you are too funny!!! Now maybe THAT'S why every one of your ex's still want to have you in their lives!?! I say, slong as it doesn't affect your current relationship, then good for you and more power to ya! I guess it means I'm not nearly as cool as your husband, because I'd hate for a man of mine to be chummy that with many of his ex-girlfriends!
ReplyDeleteI need that shirt! I'm friends with my ex husband.... NOT! But seriously I am friends with some of my ex boyfriends who are all married Who knows
ReplyDeleteBravo to you. I am still friends with the majority of ex beaus and if it was perfect, we would still be together. My husband talks to his ex girl still and it turns out, she dated someone I knew before him so I am friendly with her too. You are obviously super cool AND have great self confidence.
ReplyDeleteI'm totally voting for number one. I think it just measn that you are mature and have solid view of the world, and don't get caught up in silly pettiness.
ReplyDeleteGood for you!!
MindyMom- If I had an ex like yours I would have hired a hit man by now. We will discuss in detail over BEER Friday! ;)
ReplyDeleteSenorita-Thanks, your not to shabby yourself!
CMC- Oh, double standards here all the way. No way hubbie is having ex's as friends. Heh!
Mariah-Ditto on the MindyMom comment!
JennyMac-You must be supper cool too. See what a great group of women we are.
Kathy B-I knew I could count on you!
I can be friends with an ex ...
ReplyDeleteIF I was the one who broke up with HIM.
;)
I'm friends with a good many of my ex-girlfriends. Apparently I've never really been the best boyfriend or husband, but I've been told that I'm an AWESOME ex.
ReplyDeleteHopefully that changes with my current relationship....
qtmama-Yeah, Agreed!
ReplyDeleteCBG-I would bet that is the same for me. Otherwise they wouldn't be ex's.
I think it already changed in your NOW relationship!